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Text Box: Dealing with Girls You might as well face it early, girls are smarter than you. It’s not always true, but during the grade-school years, guys lag significantly behind girls. You may feel like an idiot, but girls aren’t looking for a genius. Personality, kindness and a sense of humour count for a lot. According to authors like John Eldredge, Robert Lewis and Dr James Dobson, most girls are looking for a real man to be their life-long partner and that man is “wild” but safe —a lot like Aslan in the Chronicles of Narnia. That man is also the knight-in-shining-armour riding over the hill to rescue her—the princess—in just the nick of time. It sounds so old-fashioned and yet it is the truth. During high school, girls are much more mature than a guy; that’s mentally, socially, and even physically… it’s TRUE. But, the guy is catching up, and by the time the guy is 20, he’s caught up and may be passing her. Do you get the implication? Girls are smarter than you during those critical growing-to-be-a-man years. So when adults look at them and then look at you, they say, “Let’s put the girl in charge. Let’s give her the scholarship. Let’s give her the advantage.” It’s not fair when we realize that guys are much more greatly impacted by the hormones that are pumping through their veins. You can’t help being a “guy” and you know deep down that you shouldn’t be judged because of it. It’s also the reality—the world is saying, “If you want to be accepted as a guy, act like a girl.” That’s not right, so be patient. The Lord has put people in your life—ADULTS—who see past the temporary problems of you growing up. Hormones: During your teens, you are maturing physically and your body is going through some massive changes. It’s just the way is supposed to be, but it throws you into a crazy world of desires, dreams, fantasies and nightmares that are very hard to deal with. You find out that you like girls; you REALLY like girls—they look awfully good to your eyes. That’s normal. So what are you going to do about it? Having desires for girls—hey, let’s be clear: your desires are for women… young women, not little girls—they are healthy desires, but it’s how you respond to them that makes you who you are. You have to choose between girls being objects for your pleasure or people of equal worth. Are you going to respect them or not? If you respect them, you have to recognize them as somebody’s young daughter, as a sister, as a best-friend, as a woman who is going to be somebody’s mother someday. She’s going to be somebody important… and she already is. How are you going to treat her? Then think of her in the best way. Pornography, “porn”—it’s such a “cute” word—but it is garbage. The Bible says: Modern research has proven that once a pornographic image is in your head, it’s there for life. This seems to back up what we know as Christians: sin doesn’t disappear; either we pay for it, or Christ pays for it for us. Pornography is sin. GUARD YOUR HEART !!! Need more incentive? How about this passage? So, what do you get for treating girls properly with honour and respect? Well, what more could you want for yourself, or for your brother, or your son, or your friend? How about a “virtuous wife”? If a virtuous wife is something that you would want, would you not want it for every other man? How does he get his good woman, if you want her for sinful pleasure? Every girl you meet is going to be someone’s special person; you’ve got to protect her for him, which brings us to the final point. Men are to be protectors and providers for women, starting with their own. There’s no room to defend the idea here, but Dr James Dobson makes the argument that men are designed by God to be providers and protectors (and spiritual heads), while women are designed to bear children and to be nurturers. Check out Ephesians 5:25-33, then Ephesians 5:22-24 - “love” your wife! We are back to being the knight-in-shining-armour. At 12 and 13, you are awkward around girls; you feel like an idiot. At 14 and 15, you’re cool, but girls are so much more mature than you, but you want to have them notice you. At 16 and 17, you’re catching up and seeing manhood as part of who you are; the girls are beginning to see you for who you really are. And at 18 and 19, you’ve arrived: you are a man and girls are looking to you for leadership. You’ve changed. You went from being focused on yourself to denying yourself in order to please a woman. Treat women—young and old—with love and respect; give your life for them.

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Do you believe in a “Higher Power”?

How about a “Supreme Being”?

Do you believe in GOD?

Is GOD perfect?

Can GOD do anything wrong?

Can GOD live with anything that’s NOT perfect?

Are you perfect?

Have you ever done anything that you knew was wrong?

Something that just wasn’t right? Something that was a “sin”?

Do you deserve to be punished for your sin?

Can Someone who is PERFECT live forever with someone who is NOT perfect?

Can the PERFECT die? Should the IMPERFECT die?

Shall you die for being imperfect?

Do you want to escape this death penalty?

Do you want to live forever?

Do you believe that Jesus, the carpenter from Nazareth, is the PERFECT Son of God?

Do you believe that JESUS died for you?

Do you believe that Jesus suffered the punishment for all of your sins?

Then tell GOD so!

Tell HIM that you’ve sinned…

Tell HIM that you deserve the punishment of death…

Tell HIM that you believe that HE died in your place …

Tell HIM that you want HIM to save you so that you can live forever with HIM and…

Tell HIM that HE is now your Lord and Saviour.

If you’ve done this, then you are a Christian, a Christ-like one who is saved by Grace, the PERFECT GIFT of GOD. Your life will not be an easy one. The world will hate you, but GOD loves you and will give you the strength to see things through. Trust HIM. Talk to HIM. Read HIS WORD, the HOLY BIBLE.

Live a life that is set apart for HIS PURPOSES and discover what TRUE JOY is all about.

This is “The Roman Road”

Admit that you are a sinner, (Romans 3:23)

Admit that you deserves eternal death, (Romans 6:23)

Believe that the Son of God, Jesus Christ died for you and suffered the punishment for your sins, (Romans 5:8)

Confess that Jesus is your Lord and Saviour. (Romans 10:9 & 10)

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Text Box: My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words. Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to a man's whole body. Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil. Proverbs 4:20-27 (NIV)

Text Box: Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NIV)

Text Box: 10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31:10-31 (NKJV)